Tuesday, 28 December 2010

To all the lonely hearts...

I've been in a relationship with the most amazing guy for the last three years and have always known how lucky I was to have met him. We had an amazing connection that people wait a lifetime for.

Last night, after spending the entire day together, he texted me to say he no longer felt the same. After the only fight we've ever had we broke up. He no longer wanted to be with me, but he didn't know why.

I'm completely devastated. I never saw it coming a million miles off. I haven't eaten in almost 24 hours, I feel sick to the stomach and my chest feels like it's about to explode.

They say you never know what you had until it's gone, but knowing what I had will make this even worse.

I've never posted about my personal life before, but He was such a huge part of it and without him I feel like a different person, like I'm no longer myself.

I'm dreading my first New Years eve alone in 3 years. So to all the lonely hearts... any advice for the latest member of the club?



  1. Oh no - I'm so sad to hear this! :(

    I sincerely hope you're ok. I have been in this situation and I really know how you feel, but it WILL get better in time I promise.

    x x x x x

  2. Ahh no, that's so sad :( i'm sorry! I know at this moment in time you feel like you'll never be happy again, but you will. Time is a great healer and it will get better! And you never know, this could just be a blip and you could get back together?

    Hope you're ok! Just try and keep busy and spend lots of time with family and friends :) xx

  3. I'm really sorry to hear this :( It's hard to believe right now but time is a great healer! As one door closes another one opens, so they say. There are a million quotes and sayings we could throw at you, but you're heartbroken and not much makes you feel better :( But the best bit of advice I could give you is STAY BUSY! Keep rushed off your feet and spend loaaaads of time with your girlfriends, that'll keep you happy!

    Things will get better and I really hope you're okay! Go out and get yourself a big mac! :) xoxo

  4. i was in this position at the start of the year and the only piece of advice i can give is that i promise you in time things will get better, it might not seem like it now but a few months down the line after crying loads and eating your weight in chocolate you will feel happy again and you will move on. just give yourself time, it wont be a quick process and may take months but eventually you will get there. throw yourself into something you've always wanted to do if its college? or a hobbie? you can do it, you've got the freedom now to do what you've always wanted to. and within time when you feel ready somebody else will come along, even if it does seem impossible at the moment :)
    i wish you all the best hun, it wont be easy but things will get better it'll just take time.

  5. Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear it.

    What I would honestly suggest is just remember that you are an amazing person. It's hard to feel that way when you're in the middle of being crushed (trust me, I know) but he'll regret this! Even if he doesn't, you have so much more to look forward to - single nights out on the town, wonderful new people to meet, and you can focus on yourself.

    Treat yourself to a mani/pedi. Buy yourself ice cream or a fancy dinner - for one! Sit in front of the TV and watch your favorite girly shows - no guilt attached! Treat this as an opportunity and try to keep smiling. <3

  6. Hun I am so sorry to hear that :[

    I know It's a cliche but time really does heal. When me & my ex broke up after living together & spending every second together I wanted to die. I thought my life was over, I cried & cried, I couldn't eat or sleep and just wanted him to hold me. But every day it will get a little easier, It's not quick if it''s true love but I promise it will get better.

    I know that no matter what anyone says you won't feel any better but I'm sending you big cuddles :]

    x x x

  7. even though everyone says it - you really will get over it in time and find someone who really does want to be with you and will know the reason why!
    chin up sweet xxx

  8. Thank you all so much for you lovely comments they've really helped cheered me up :)

    I know your all right that eventually it will get better, but today seems like it's been the longest day and I dread how many more days i'll have to spend having to physically stop myself from checking my phone and his facebook.

    I'll just have to surround myself with all my friends and keep myself busy. Big macs wouldnt hurt either! haha


  9. Hope you're ok hun! Men are rubbish, don't let them get you down. I know its hard but it will get better. Just think, now you can go out on New Years Eve and have fun as a single lady ;) x

  10. I can only say that everything that happens, happens for the best.You bight get back with him, in an even stronger relationship, or you might find out that single life is not that bad, and find a hobby you're really good at, and then, you will find someone else who will be the best part of your life!
    But until then, live each moment for you!The moments you spend worrying and crying are moments that could've been spent being happy!
    ps.Chocolate might help too!